A New Letting Go of Stuff Product

Posted March 2, 2012 by Letting Go Pro
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I have not found in any school system, a program that teaches how to be successful, as a person. I have also not found in any school system a program that supports how to effectively let go and manage through life’s challenges.

So in the stead of complaining about what is missing in the school systems across the country. I decided to take positive action and create a product that will help to close the gap between what is needed and what is missing. Thus, I created the Letting Go of Stuff Student Guidebook.

The news announcement about it is on several news release websites and HERE.

Its Challenging Sometimes…

Posted February 27, 2012 by Letting Go Pro
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You might remember the blog post about one of my clients who was challenged with weight loss. What I may not have shared in that post is that using the steps in my book, she (my client) lost 120 pounds over about a one and a half year period of time. Her story is below, used with permission.

One of the challenges she had was overcoming her mindset. What I also didn’t tell you about is what happened on the first day of our “kitchen cleansing.” It was funny on one hand, and a great demonstration of how we can create a life filled with challenges on the other hand. Here’s the story.

I arrived at her home for our first of five sessions. The first session is called the Kitchen Cleansing. It is a process in which we go through your kitchen cabinets and identify what you eat. I then draw a correlation between what is in your kitchen cabinets and the mindset that keeps you from winning the weight challenge. – long term.

Shortly after I entered in to the house, she began to explain to me how challenged she was with preparing for this first day. She began to explain how she was going to really be committed to this process and how she was not “hiding anything” anywhere in her home.

After she shared that info, I could see the body language of one of her friends, who was there to also experience the kitchen cleansing. After observing her friend’s non-verbals, I asked my client, “what have you hidden?” She shyly replied, “Nothing. Why do you ask?” After a few minutes of going back and forth, she finally admitted to this one act of desperation.

She had hidden, under her bed, two gallons of ice cream and some Oreo cookies. It was funny because when I lifted up the bedspread and looked, I saw two gallons of ice cream, melting slowly and leaking all over the carpet under her bed. It was too funny on one hand.

On the other hand, it was a great testimony of how ridiculously far one is willing to go to support a very detrimental habit. She was so embarrassed that I almost felt as though I needed to give her a break for doing what she did. BUT, I didn’t.

That was the beginning of her Letting Go of Stuff journey. At the end of her journey she lost 120 pounds. I am so proud of her still, even though that was several years back.

You may be wondering how she is doing today. Just fine and still wearing a size 10 (down from a 16 years ago).

The point to the story is as follows. Regardless of the challenges along the way, if you allow yourself to be focused on your goals and remain steadfast in their fulfillment, then success is inevitable on many levels.

What ever your goals – weight loss, making money, being a better mother or father, being a better partner/spouse, getting that job you always dreamed of, starting that business you have always wanted, quitting smoking, exercising more, being a better friend or lover, (or both), being a better son or daughter, or treating better the people you believe you love – you can do it. You can accomplish THAT goal, and more.

Among other things, you must plan, act, and believe.

More to come…

Celebrity Deaths – What They Had In Common While Alive

Posted February 15, 2012 by Letting Go Pro
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What did Christopher Hitchens, Kim Jong-il, Whitney Houston, Heavy D, Joe Frazier, Andy Rooney, Michael Jackson, Teena Marie, and so many more – have in common while alive?

There are many words that can be used to describe the level of success among the above and so many more celebrities. But for the purpose of this entry the common word is “determination.”

This morning while on my trampoline, it occurred to me that with all of the challenges in my life, with all of the choices I could have made to do things for better or worse, with all of the internal fears, with all of the worries, and with all of the issues; the one thing that is among the most important factors that have allowed me to experience any level of success is: my determination.

Being determined is about having a focused and firm purpose. As a matter of fact, when I looked up the definition of the word – one of the phrases in the dictionary was – a firm and focused purpose.

Letting Go of Stuff is very much about being determined to de-clutter your life – by un-cluttering your spirit.

Every successful individual, whether celebrity or not, at some point in his/her life must be focused and dead set on achieving the vision held in their mind’s eye. And so it is with you, the reader of this blog entry.

  • What is your firm and focused purpose?
  • How determined are you to fulfill that purpose?
  • How often do you allow your fear(s) to get in the way of your determination?

Not sure if you are determined enough? Mahatma Gandhi expressed it this way, “A small body of determined spirits fired by an unquenchable faith in their mission can alter the course of history.”

Below are three things you can do immediately to increase your determination.

  1. Define your purpose – in what ever it is you want to accomplish.
  2. Begin your morning by claiming your determination to fulfill that purpose.
  3. Then – believe in yourself and your ability to go after that purpose with intense energy.
  4. Finally, visualize your plan to fulfill that purpose – throughout the day – every day – until fulfillment.

Darren

PS – All the best and condolences to all the families of all of those who have left us. Their greatness remains in all of our hearts, whether we realize it or not.

George Carlin Talks About STUFF!

Posted January 26, 2012 by Letting Go Pro
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Late Great Comedian George Carlin Talks About STUFF!

Manage All Those Biz Cards – Then Let Them Go

Posted August 15, 2011 by Letting Go Pro
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Below are seven steps for managing ALL of those business cards that you collect at networking events and/or from being out and about at various business functions. You may be able to increase your revenue by 1 – 2% over the next 8 months, by simply following up with the business cards you have laying around and stacked up around your office.

  1. Categorize your business cards by industry
  2. Sub-categorize them according to the products are services you offer
  3. Decide what data you need to keep
  4. Set up your database according to industry, products/services you offer, and the data you need to collect in order to market effectively
  5. Create a script for email, snail mail, and/or phone – for each industry and each product/service
  6. From the scripts – create templates for follow up email and letters
  7. Send out your messages to each each of the databases

THEN, let those business cards go – recycle them. Literally shred them. Any info you want to keep and/or follow up on from the cards, simply put in to the database.

Don’t have time to create a database system of your own? No problem! Lucy M. Barela, a business colleague, suggested the following resource. This website is a good start for getting in the habit of collecting, inputting, and following up with your potential leads – immediately after you get them. Its getting in the habit that matters the most.

Lucy recommended www.zoho.com. This website will allow you to set up a database that will facilitate the execution of the seven steps above. Zoho’s introductory level is free.

Every time you attend a networking event and/or meet someone and collect their biz cards, immediately plug those cards in to your follow up system and then – let the cards go. By letting them go I mean shred and recycle the paper (smile). Remember – any and all info you want to keep regarding those cards, you can put in to your database. Why not save a tree, or two, or three (smile).

For more tips on business growth and development – stay tuned to this website by signing up to get updates. The sign up box is on the left side of your screen, near the top.

Until next time…
Darren – Albuquerque Business Coach

When Things Go Wrong…

Posted July 21, 2011 by Letting Go Pro
Categories: Life Guidance

When things go wrong, don’t go with them.

Go in the direction you know in your soul is best. Follow your spirit. It will never steer you wrong.

New Mexico Fires – The Fear-Of-Loss Continuum

Posted July 6, 2011 by Letting Go Pro
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The fires in New Mexico are nothing to joke about. Especially when you consider the fact that so many people are being torn from their homes and thrown in to forced life changes.

Home evacuations with the fear of losing everything are on one end of the New Mexico fires fear-of-loss continuum. On the other end of the New Mexico fires fear-of-loss continuum are the losses of everything due to homes that have actually burned to the ground.

There are many ways to view this fear-of-loss continuum. Another perspective is that on one end of it people are faced with the fear of being forced to let go. On the other end of this fear-of-loss continuum people are literally being forced to let go of their current way of living. Either way, the emotional, psychological, and physiological impacts are great and devastating.

How does one deal with being on the the fear-of-loss continuum?

It is hard to even imagine losing everything. It is also hard to know what exactly to say and do to support someone who has lost everything. But one must start somewhere, and below is my honest, genuine, and meaningful attempt to offer considerations of support. Since I am action oriented and tend to move toward situations head on, I offer the following actions for consideration.

If you are supporting someone who is currently living life somewhere along this fear-of-loss continuum due to the New Mexico fires, perhaps the following will be helpful for you, as you support them.

For the home owners who have to evacuate,

but their homes have not been burned – one of the most important activities for them to participate in is planning. If possible, rise above the fear of the unknown and put energy in to planning for the possibility of loss. This may help shift the focus from fear – to – hope.

Strangely enough, planning for the possibility of loss may help to  shift the focus from the unknown to what can be managed in the present. It is called living in the moment. Oddly enough, planning could also help with the process of accepting and acknowledging what may become an inevitable experience.

For the home owners who have lost everything in the New Mexico fires,

Consider this >>>  1. Accept Help   2. Don’t Blame   3. Live In Today

  1. Accept help from others without judgement
  2. Don’t blame yourself for the loss – it was totally out of your control
  3. Don’t blame family members (and others) for the loss – it was out of their control as well
  4. Keep in mind – this was not only your loss, but your family as well – therefore honor their feelings as you honor yours
  5. Try very hard not to take out your frustrations on your family and others
  6. Your life is today. Be willing to bring together your family and go through some kind of process in which you literally say “good-bye” to your belongings and past life. Often, saying good-bye with a kind of ritualistic process will help with healing and spiritually make space for the new path on which you are being forced to embark
  7. Allow yourself to go through the process of grieving the loss of your past life.
  8. Finally, give yourself time to heal.

More to come…

Darren L Johnson

THIS IS WHAT I KNOW

Posted July 4, 2011 by Letting Go Pro
Categories: Life Guidance

Hi Everyone!! I HAD to post this awesome reflection of life written by a wonderful friend from Chicago! It is so well written and represents what I believe ALL of us experience at one point or another in life. THANK YOU E – for giving me permission to re-print this incredible writing just for this blog. Below leave a comment about E’s writing.

E’s reflection on life is titled:

THIS IS WHAT I KNOW by E’zhe

Today I broke out an old friend: my tried and true yellow notepad and a pen. Thoughts kept swirling through my mind; slowly, dully – then quickly and vividly. I kept looking for a muse for my source of Inspiration. Then I Re-Membered that I Am an extension of that Source. I needed look no further. Never without; I searched Within and found the Voice of my own Truth.

This is what I know: I came here to express myself – in every way, shape, fashion and form.

Iʼll break out dancing in the middle of a Wal-mart, if my favorite song is playing. I Love to write poetry and short stories. I Love my computer. I Love Creating works for my clients that exceed their expectations. I Love acting, because I get to stretch my Perception of Self beyond its limits.

I Love to model; I Love Being sexy. I Love deep, meaningful conversation. I Love letting my voice be heard. Canʼt sing though. I wish I could. I Love Being an Inspiration to others, and I Love witnessing others experience their own “aha!” moments. I Love dancing. Magic always happens under the Disco Ball. I Love Being sensual and sexual. I Love taking advantage of all of my senses, in order to enjoy all of the Pleasures of Life. Sometimes I wanna go Vegan.

Sometimes I want to sink my teeth into a NY Strip. I just Love a great meal. Sometimes I want to detox and fast. Sometimes I want to drink all night. Iʼm okay with that, too. Some days I want to fit in. Some days I want to stand out. Some days I just want to be left the hell alone.

But no matter how I choose to show up, I want to be me. The Real Me.

The Me who has a head full of dreams and a genuine passion for life. The Me who can be afraid of the unknown; yet excited by itʼs newness at the same time. The Me that can relate to people better by hugs than handshakes; by smiles rather than empty gestures. The Me who Loves snow cones and rainbows and fireworks and flowers and balloons and lazy days – just because.

I wonʼt say Iʼll look for any excuse to celebrate life. But I find it inexcusable for me not to
look for such opportunities in each and every day of my life. My obituary will not read,
“Coulda, woulda, shoulda…”

My life is filled with ups and downs, but not with failures. Everything I have experienced has contributed towards making me the person that I Am – in this moment. And I certainly – am not – a failure. I may have lost much, but I understand that it is all part of my Process: LETTING GO of the old in order to make room for the new. I Am on my Journey to Joy, and I Am following my Bliss!

The Path I am on now is different.

Sometimes scary. Sometimes painful. But I move out on Faith and the Knowing that Prosperity is my Birthright. I do not have to justify my existence in order to allow greatness to flow throughout my life. The mere fact that I Am here means that I can be, do, or have anything I desire. Every day people fight and die
for what they believe in.

I believe in Me.

Those who know me know that I am a Force of Nature and sometimes not easy to deal with. Those who Love me know that if there is one thing I do very well, it is to Love. I Love my family. I Love my friends. I Love music. I Love art. I Love inanimate objects. I Love for the sheer Joy and exhilaration of the Expression of Love itself. At first it wasnʼt easy for me, but then I discovered the very Essence of who I Am. Trust me – after a while youʼll get the hang of it! Try it – youʼll like it!

The best part of all of this is that at any moment, all of this could change. As I evolve, so does my Truth.

This is what I know.
4/12/10
Eʼzhe

What Do You Have In Common With Lillian Evans and a not so Clean House?

Posted June 28, 2011 by Letting Go Pro
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Lillian Evans owns a Virginia home that was featured on an episode of the Clean House Show. Her home was labeled as the, “Clean House: Messiest Home in America 5.”

What might you have in common with Lillian Evans?

Let’s count the possibilities.

  1. Single Parent
  2. Detached from positive childhood experiences
  3. Shops to forget the reality
  4. Creates emotional ties to the stuff around her
  5. Becomes overwhelmed with the outcomes of the above items
  6. Feel stagnated by the stuff that is accumulated, as a result of your own habits
  7. Sinking in your own mental traffic of STUFF – and keeping your self stuck in a rut

Getting a sense of what Lillian Evans may be experiencing?

There is a way out; a way to begin Letting Go of Stuff. Evans situation did not happen over night. It developed over seventeen years of poorly developed habits and the development of self defeating mental traffic.

Though cleaning the house will not fix the problem, it is a great start for Lillian Evans.
As you look around your house and/or office – what do you see? How do you feel?

Does the notion of ending up with a house full of STUFF over a seventeen year period – scare the heck out of you? Even if it only brings chills to your spine, there is a way to thwart off that kind of future.

When I purchased my parents home, it was filled with all of their STUFF.  Their combined life span of 143 years was spread out in every room of their home. A home they designed and built from scratch. How did I clean house?

Below are a few clean house tips.

  • Step 1 – Accept and Acknowledge – YOUR STUFF.
  • Step 2 – Identify and list what that STUFF is
  • Step 3 – Prepare for the emotional, mental, and physiological changes you will experience as you clean house
  • Step 4 – Make a list – of your family and friends who may want some of your stuff
  • Step 5 – Invite those on the above list over to get what they want. Give them an initial date and deadline date to come by and get what they want.
  • Step 6 – Have a garage sale and sell everything you can. Use experts like those on the Clean House Show.
  • Step 7 – Remove yourself from the house during the sale and read a copy of Letting Go of Stuff while you are away.
  • Step 8 – Have the same people who managed your garage sale come back and remove everything else that did not sell. Again, remove your self from the house during this process.
  • Step 9 – Begin to change your habits and thought patterns – using a personal development coach
  • Step 10 – Live long and prosper from the inside out

Letting Go and Weight Loss – The Connection

Posted April 25, 2011 by Letting Go Pro
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THE STORY
I had a client who was really trying hard to lose weight. She counted calories. She had tried all of the most popular weight loss programs out there. She was tired, ragged, and worn out in her attempt to find something that worked. Every program she tried – in the long run, just didn’t work.

A couple of weight loss programs worked at first, but then – after a month or two – she just gained the weight right back. And with some of the programs, she not only gained what she had loss right back, she gained even more weight. Sheesh! She was frustrated to no end.

ONE CHALLENGE
One of the reasons for her inability to lose weight was because of her mindset. In her minds eye, she saw herself having challenges. She never created an image of herself – getting thinner. She had no vision of herself losing the weight she wanted. She did not even have an image of her being successful in the process – in any way. The vision she had was of her struggling to lose weight. She saw herself not losing weight. She had no clear vision of how she would look after losing weight. THEREFORE, the decisions that she made, subconsciously, were centered around NOT losing weight and failing in the weight loss programs that she tried. This was her vision.

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ONE SOLUTION
Through a coached process of visioning – she was able to create a NEW vision of herself. One that allowed her to, in her mind’s eye, see herself succeeding. In her vision she was

  • thinner
  • happy
  • stress free
  • eating what she wanted
  • eating when she wanted
  • more attractive and appealing to her husband (he could not keep his hands off her)
  • was a source of inspiration to her friends and family
  • felt like the queen weight loss expert

We used a picture from her past in the visioning exercise. Afterward she posted copies of the picture – in her house, car, office, bathroom, on the fridge and oven doors, and by the door going out to the garage. We had to work hard at her not hating the pictures, but loving them.

Sometimes we get angry at pictures from the past that remind us of what we DO NOT HAVE. That anger creates blockage to getting what we want. Its best to love that part of your past. LET GO OF THE ANGER.

LOVE who you are today, by embracing you were yesterday.

You can do this…
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Until The Nest Post… take care.

Darren


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