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Living With Joy While Letting Go

I am re-reading a great little book titled Ask and It Is Given, by Esther and Jerry Hicks.

There are many awesome examples, powerful tools, and easy to apply methods in this book. The first time I read it, I put it down thinking that it was a nice book. This second time around I am really getting in to the application of the tools and methods. One of the many incredible tools helps one to recognize what vibration level you are on, relative to your emotions.

This is a process that will allow you to begin letting go of negative feelings. I love this tool as it is in the form of a scale of emotions and thought patterns. These patterns are listed from most negative to most positive. For example, joy is among the top level positive feelings. Depression is listed among the lowest feelings. As you identify what feelings you are experiencing at any given moment in time, you are able to choose, consciously, to increase the vibrational level for those feelings, by moving up the scale of feelings.

Even though it is a scale and the feelings are ranked, the lower feelings are not bad, they just create different outcomes, based on whether we focus on them.

For example, if you find that a particular thought makes you feel angry, then that feeling represents a certain vibration that you are experiencing in that moment. Once you realize the impact of that feeling of anger, you can then choose to either change the thought, or change your feeling about the thought.

It is powerful and it is empowering to know that you can totally control your momentary destiny, in that way. By controlling your momentary destiny, you ultimately control your life long destiny.

Based on my example, this specific tool allows you to let go of what is restricting your feelings of joy and happiness, which gives you more control. The following was my experience just this morning.

During my walk this morning, I was thinking about a contract I am about to sign to lead a not-for-profit organization down a new path of success. As I thought about the contract and the current Chair, I noticed that I began to feel anxious, even bothered by some of the actions of that Chair. Realizing this allowed me to choose to take a different path with this potential client. That choice helped me to feel more empowered about working with that client.

I will be joyful as I meet with this client this morning, and I am choosing to only move in a direction that will bring me joy with this situation. If I stay with that vibration, then the law of attraction will bring that same vibration back to my world. This means that I will have to be conscious and aware of my feelings throughout the entire meeting with this client, which is most empowering. Its is awesome!

So I would like to highly recommend that you get Ask and It Is Given. This book can literally change your life, if you practice the methods it offers.

If you have just begun your letting go of stuff journey, Ask and It Is Given by Esther and Jerry Hicks is a tool you want to have in your personal empowerment box.

Until the next post… take great care.
Darren

Letting Go and Focusing On What You Can Control

There are two important elements necessary to let go successfully.

One: Take healthy action as you move toward something positive, something new, something exciting, something challenging in you life

Two: Focus only on what you can control.

Although you cannot change past events, you can control your present day reactions to the past. One way to do that is to choose to live your life today – without yesterday’s hanging shadow. An appropriate quote for this comes from Dave Ramsey, author of The Total Money Makeover. Ramsey writes, “If you will live like no one else, later you can live like no one else.”

My interpretation of living like no one else is to spend time focusing only on what I can control and to exercise what I call the “today philosophy” in my daily living. This means I have replaced expressions that begin with:

One day I will…; I’m working on it…; Eventually I will…;

…with expressions such as:

Today, I will…; and, I am…

As for you, today is the day you can choose to change your internal dialogue.
Today—not “one day”—you can begin to love yourself better.
Today—not “one day”—you can begin to let go of stuff.

You also can create mental expectations of any future outcomes you want in life. Henry David Thoreau is credited with this quote, “If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.”

Focusing your time and energy on your own attitude, actions, reactions, thoughts, and dreams narrows the playing field, and keeps life simpler, easier, and uncomplicated. However, when you try to control the actions, attitudes, schedules, and thoughts of everyone else, life not only gets more complicated, but you might push away those who care for you.

Think on it!

Helping Children To Let Go

The beauty of teaching children how to let go at an early age is that they might not get so stuck in a rut later in life. It will also help them to have greater balance when it comes to choosing friends, and making choices while among friends.

This is something they will not learn in school, but only through stories and activities. Cokoa’s Journey is a children’s book about letting go. It is written as a parable. Cokoa, a poodle, learns with his friends the seven secrets for letting go of stuff on purpose.

Click on the picture of the baby on the toilet to learn how you can make a difference.