The Little Protector Within

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By ELisha Vee

Every now and then I hear an inner voice yelling for me to post something online. “Share an experience,” the voice yells. When that happens, I get excited and start thinking about what to write and how to convey my thoughts.

Then moments later that inner voice quietly says, “Don’t post that. It does not feel comfortable. It is not safe to feel uncomfortable.”

What ensues is a feeling of anxiety over possible rejection or ridicule (due to past experiences) overwhelms me. This leads to the inevitable “deletion” of the post.

Why does the second voice seem to “win out” most of the time? Shouldn’t the initial voice be the bigger voice with more confidence, relevance, and authenticity?

It is my understanding that the answer lies within the subconscious. I believe the subconscious is a powerful protector that helps us to avoid threats – real or perceived – at all costs. When I feel anxious inside, my subconscious springs into its reactive, protective mode.

“Thank you, Subconscious. I feel safe now?”

What Is Stuff - Letting Go CafeConstantly reliving past experiences can greatly inhibit our creative expression. We have to learn to let go. Being unable to let go prevents us from being fully present in the moment, thereby reducing our overall quality of life. Oftentimes we are not aware that we are living in the past and that our present actions are mostly reactions triggered by past experiences.

We have to learn how to let go in order to access and process these emotions from the past. As the saying goes: “Problems cannot be solved with the same mindset that created them.” Practicing the skill of letting go can free us of emotional triggers and allow us to move towards the next greatest version of ourselves.

Imagine how much more productive, fulfilled, and happy life could be if we learn how to tap into our subconscious. Once we identify the voice that is telling us “no,” we can consciously choose to shift that to a resounding ‘yes.”. The more practice we get with making conscious choices about our internal conversation, the better we get at acting according the positive portions of our internal dialog.

Which do you listen to most often, the YES or the NO voice?

A Story, It’s Secret, and Letting Go

When I was a full time speaker and consultant, I traveled all over the country and met many wonderful and outstanding people. During my internal consulting stint for a retail company in northwest Arkansas, I had a chance to meet an amazing young lady who only wants to help others identify how to be their best. She is vibrant, articulate, focused, and spirited. She can also help anyone to develop a plan for how to effectively manage change.

Andrea Cadeli on Letting Go Cafe
Andrea Cadelli

Andrea Cadelli has written the following story for the Letting Go Cafe. It is about letting go and represents a time in her life when letting go of someone close to her was challenging.

Without further ado, check out her article…

One Secret To Staying Young And Healthy

Over the years I have met so many beautiful people. Some were seasoned, but looked youthful. Others were young and looked more seasoned. I often wonder why that is the case. For me, I fall in the seasoned category, with a youthful look (or so I am told). I contribute it to two important things.

I blame it in part on one valuable ingredient that I eat daily, and thus is part of a recipe for living life to the fullest. That ingredient is coconut oil.

In addition to it being a powerful anti-inflammatory and antimicrobial properties that can treat a range of infections from the flu to candida due to the lauric and caprylic acid content, there is a long list of great researched based reasons why coconut oil is considered one secret to staying young and healthy. Trust me, it is no joke.

There are so many uses for coconut oil in your daily healthy beauty routine, it’s hard to keep track! There are also a few things to consider before changing your habits to incorporate coconut oil into your daily regimen.

Changing from what you currently use to coconut oil will require letting go of old habits. As you know, I am all about the power of letting go of the stuff that can keep one bound and stifled when it comes to moving toward accomplishing one’s goals and dreams.

  • letting go of old habits
  • consistency and commitment
  • calling yourself out each time you get weak and want to go back to your old habits

According to the researchers at the Beauty Research Institute, and Director of Research MJ Morgan, many medical professionals believe that a tablespoon of coconut oil a day can help lower the risk of heart disease and help reduce inflammation. Additionally, it is used effectively to “tame the loose and wild ends on those of use who are lucky enough to have a full head of hair.

MJ MORGAN - founder of beauty research institute
MJ Morgan

When you combine the use of coconut oil with the second ingredient to my seasoned, but youthful look, drinking the right amount of water daily, the benefits can become exponential.

Hope this was helpful and provides some golden nuggets you can use for your personal health goals this year. Click on the links in this article for more value added content.

Take care, talk later.

PS – the fourth Thursday in March is National Letting Go of Stuff Day