Wendy Williams – Never Let Go Of The Little Girl In You

Wendy Williams hit the nail on the head during her afteWendy Williams - Letting Go Cafer show when she stated that one should “never let go of the little girl in you.” Though she was referring to an interview she had done with a member of her co-host audience, the statement Wendy made was powerful.

In coaching and consulting with individuals and organizations on how to effectively let go, I have found that in the process of gaining fame and fortune, people lose (or move away from) their true essence. As a result, they spend lots of time redefining their identity. Some never finish redefining themselves and get stuck between their essence and finding a new identity. The real beauty of Wendy Williams and her many physical reiterations of her identity is she never lost her essenceimages in the process. The essence of a person is hard to change, even when one wants to make that change. In order to “let go and redefine your essence there are some steps that must be taken.  Below are two of the many steps in the process of letting go of the old you, otherwise known as redefining yourself.

The first step in rediscovering your true essence, some refer to as identifying core values, is to commit to being perfectly honest with yourself about who you are today. Tell yourself the truth about who you are. If you lie to yourself, then you will only set your redefinition process up for failure. The Shakespearean quote, “to thine own self be true” is very applicable for success of this step, and throughout this entire process. This first step is a must and for some might be difficult to do as it takes great courage to be true to yourself.

The next step, among many, is to take a journey to your past. Reflect on your past experiences and people who influenced your beliefs and ways of being. Selectively reach out to the people in your past and ask them about how you were back then. For example, I remember at a book signing in Atlanta an old friend came to the signing and shared that she was not surprised that I wrote a book about letting go. She shared that one of the phrases I used to say in high school was, “just let it go.” I had no idea (had totally forgotten) that I used to say that in high school. Once I reflected on what she told me, I remembered that I did use to say that phrase. When you begin to reflect in more detail on your past, it will help you to better understand about the choices you make in the present. Keep in mind that reflecting on the past is very different from “holding on to the past.” As you reflect, be mindful not to get stuck in the past.

These two steps alone can put you on the path of redefinition of self. However, please know that there is so much more to this process.

Thandie Newton Talks About Use Of SELF

Actor Thandie Newton does a wonderful job of sharing her personal experience with letting go of SELF.

In this video the actor shares her personal experiences with letting go of self and how, in the process, she finds her true self. She also defines race and talks a lot about coming to grips with the true definition of what I refer to as her “whoness.” Letting go of stuff is a process that allows one to identify and embrace one’s whoness.

Whoness represents our way of being both within and without the world around us. Whoness represents your true essence. Thandie Newton shared her “whoness” with the audience and does so with elegance and style.

Watch Thandie’s incredible, yet brief talk HERE.

Hill Harper’s Perspective On Success and Letting Go

Everyone has different ways to take their letting go journey. No one journey for letting go of stuff is the best journey, except for the traveler of that particular journey. The key however is to simply begin the journey by taking that first step toward letting go.

Letting Go Cafe-Hill HarperAt a luncheon in Albuquerque, I recently experienced a presentation by Hill Harper. It was great! Part of the inspiration from his message was its simplicity. Based on a quote by the great late Robert F. Kennedy, Harper shared three key ingredients for letting go and succeeding.

The Robert F Kennedy quote is, “The future does not belong to those who are content with today, apathetic toward common problems and their fellow man alike, timid and fearful in the face of bold projects and new ideas. Rather, it will belong to those who can blend passion, reason and courage in a personal commitment to [their] ideals.”

The first ingredient is “passion.”

Passion is defined as having strong and barely controllable emotion. To understand passion one must understand emotion.

Letting Go Cafe-Robert F KennedyThe definition of emotion is grounded in the latin and french origins of the words ‘émouvoir’ and ’emovere’ respectively. Again, respectively the english translation of those two words are are “excite” and “move.” What happens when you get excited and move in any direction? Energy is created when that happens.

To have passion for changing your life, accomplishing a goal, or making a dream come true requires outstanding, uncontrollable energy and movement toward that specific endeavor.

The second ingredient is “reasoning.”

Reason is defined in part as the power of the mind to think, understand, and form judgments by a process of logic.” Given this definition, combined with passion, we might better understand how to successfully effectuate change.

In order to – make a positive change, accomplish a goal, make a dream come true, or the like – one must move toward that goal with uncontrollable energy, but to do it using a logical process for how to move – a strategy – if you will. Strategic thinking is what will put legs-that-run underneath the passion you have for making your dreams and goals a reality.

The third ingredient is “courage.”

From Latin root ‘cor’ meaning heart, the word courage simply means to do something with heart. It takes heart to face one’s fears. Courage is having the heart to do what frightens you, in spite of your fears.

Fear is an amazing force and can either be your friend or your foe – the choice is yours.

As you take your letting go of stuff journey, remember these keys as they might prove to be a great way to stay focused. Share this post with the person or persons you believe need this shot in the arm.

Until next time…