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The Little Protector Within

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By ELisha Vee

Every now and then I hear an inner voice yelling for me to post something online. “Share an experience,” the voice yells. When that happens, I get excited and start thinking about what to write and how to convey my thoughts.

Then moments later that inner voice quietly says, “Don’t post that. It does not feel comfortable. It is not safe to feel uncomfortable.”

What ensues is a feeling of anxiety over possible rejection or ridicule (due to past experiences) overwhelms me. This leads to the inevitable “deletion” of the post.

Why does the second voice seem to “win out” most of the time? Shouldn’t the initial voice be the bigger voice with more confidence, relevance, and authenticity?

It is my understanding that the answer lies within the subconscious. I believe the subconscious is a powerful protector that helps us to avoid threats – real or perceived – at all costs. When I feel anxious inside, my subconscious springs into its reactive, protective mode.

“Thank you, Subconscious. I feel safe now?”

What Is Stuff - Letting Go CafeConstantly reliving past experiences can greatly inhibit our creative expression. We have to learn to let go. Being unable to let go prevents us from being fully present in the moment, thereby reducing our overall quality of life. Oftentimes we are not aware that we are living in the past and that our present actions are mostly reactions triggered by past experiences.

We have to learn how to let go in order to access and process these emotions from the past. As the saying goes: “Problems cannot be solved with the same mindset that created them.” Practicing the skill of letting go can free us of emotional triggers and allow us to move towards the next greatest version of ourselves.

Imagine how much more productive, fulfilled, and happy life could be if we learn how to tap into our subconscious. Once we identify the voice that is telling us “no,” we can consciously choose to shift that to a resounding ‘yes.”. The more practice we get with making conscious choices about our internal conversation, the better we get at acting according the positive portions of our internal dialog.

Which do you listen to most often, the YES or the NO voice?

Letting Go Cafe and Andrea Cadelli

A Story, It’s Secret, and Letting Go

When I was a full time speaker and consultant, I traveled all over the country and met many wonderful and outstanding people. During my internal consulting stint for a retail company in northwest Arkansas, I had a chance to meet an amazing young lady who only wants to help others identify how to be their best. She is vibrant, articulate, focused, and spirited. She can also help anyone to develop a plan for how to effectively manage change.

Andrea Cadeli on Letting Go Cafe

Andrea Cadelli

Andrea Cadelli has written the following story for the Letting Go Cafe. It is about letting go and represents a time in her life when letting go of someone close to her was challenging.

Without further ado, check out her article…

Let Go – Unhealthy Products Under Your Sink(s)

In 2003 I began my journey to becoming a healthy vegan. The next decision was to start where I thought was easiest – physically eliminating all the unhealthy products. Ha! I could not have been more wrong in thinking that was going to be an easy approach. It got pretty complicated very quickly.

Today however, I am still living a vegan lifestyle, and must say that I believe it has never been more important than now to take a hands on and natural approach, when it comes to your health and household cleaning products.

Note: If you want to bypass my story and prefer to get right to the video resource I used to begin my successful journey back then – no problem – just click here.

What I began to realize, as I did my research in 2003, was how many of the products and medications used were (and still are) harmful, and yet we don’t know what to use in their place. There is so much info out there, it is hard to know what to do – and even harder to know which article or research study to trust. I understand because I went through it.

Getting back to my story, I began my adventure where I thought it would be easiest: applying my own steps on how to let go and focusing on only changing the external cleansers and related products found under my sinks. As one who has authored books on how to let go – I thought, “well this will be pretty easy to do!” Boy I could not have been more wrong. It wound up being a major inside-out challenge, almost right from the start.

The short of it: My reasoning was that if I start with external products and clean up my environment first – then I will be able to begin to clean out my body as part of the second phase. What I did not bargain for was all of the internal thought patterns that kept me emotionally connected to the external products I was using. There were some great lessons learned as I began taking the following steps toward letting go.

The first step I took was to accept and acknowledge my own ignorance about what was actually in the products I was using at the time. That was my “current state.”

Next, I had to realize that this change was going to be uncomfortable, and yet it was necessary.

Third, I had to identify and change my internal conversation that was helping to support staying inside of my comfort zone. Step 3A was to develop a new internal conversation that supported making this transition.

After that internal work was underway, I had to plan for an approach to clean out the cabinets under my sinks, and reading those labels. This meant I needed a “future state” vision for what my cabinets would look like once I was done. Over the span of about six months I was able to transform my cabinets from unhealthy cleaning products to those products that support a healthier lifestyle. It was a journey, but well worth the effort.

In sharing this my story, I hope it allows you to somehow find your story and begin/continue your letting go journey – under your sinks (LOL). I also want to provide you with a resource that will seriously reduce the amount of time it might take for you to get started. This resource from Every Day Roots will help you with letting go the external stuff under your sinks.

Below are 8 “toxins” that can be found under your sink. Click on any one of these items below to get more details.

  1. Phthalates. Found in: Many fragranced household products, such as air fresheners, dish soap, even toilet paper. …
  2. Perchloroethylene or “PERC” …
  3. Triclosan. …
  4. Quarternary Ammonium Compounds, or “QUATS” …
  5. 2-Butoxyethanol. …
  6. Ammonia. …
  7. Chlorine. …
  8. Sodium Hydroxide

Take a few minutes and watch this video from Every Day Roots. I hope it proves to be as much of a resource for you, as it was for me – back in 2003. It might be a helpful resource for you, if this is something you have either been wanting to do for a while, or are in the process of doing .

Without further ado – check out this brief video.