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Forgive, Let Go, and Pay Yourself First

payyouselffirst1Some time ago I read a book that offered steps for becoming financially independent. The book is titled, “The Richest Man In Bablylon” by George S. Clason.

One of the steps in Clason’s book is to “pay your self first,” above and beyond any entity or person. That simple step was easy to write, easy to say, and easy to ponder, but the true application of that simple step can be challenging for many people; in part because it is not totally understood.

Today, I have been able to apply that concept in other ways, aside from financial independence, or the pursuit thereof. The notion of paying yourself first can also be applied to loving and forgiving. Sometimes to love and forgive ones self is a payment of a different kind, and the value is priceless.

I have learned, as I strive to perfect the art of letting go of stuff, that to let go of a habit, internal program, or to change your attitude toward someoneforgive 2 or something is challenging. The place to begin is with the person in the mirror. Please note that the art of letting go of stuff is a never-ending process of learning that will last a lifetime, and forgiving ones self is a huge part of that process.

Paying yourself first, when it comes to forgiveness means – starting with you. Forgiving your self is the only way that you will be able to forgive any one else. Seriously. It is true.

Letting go of stuff includes forgiveness. Walt Kelly, in a 1970 Pogo comic strip wrote, “we have met the enemy, and he is us.” I interpret that to mean that we must first point fingers at us, before pointing them at anyone else.

Constantly ask, what was my role in this situation?
-What was my role in the failure of this relationship?
-What was my role in the altercation with that person?
-What was my role as I argued with that person?

Begin with you. Forgive yourself first. Love yourself the most. By doing these things, you will in effect, pay yourself first.

How do you forgive yourself?Forgive1It is just as simple as financially paying yourself first. You must love yourself enough to do so. You must make a sacrifice. You must change your thought patterns. I will give you some steps for forgiving your self. But first let me talk a little more about this whole forgiveness thing, ‘cause it is important.

Forgiving yourself is crucial to forgiving others. According to Harvey Mackay, if you want to get even with someone, then forgive them. That will really get them back. Forgiveness allows you to move from a place of pain and suffering to a place of peace and harmony. For many, holding on to pain, anger, frustration, resentment, and the like is slowly eating away at your mental and spiritual being, and eventually will destroy your physical being. let go 1
So forgive, and begin with you.

Steps that will put you on the path for self-forgiveness are:

  1. Make a list of those you need to forgive (be honest and include your self)
  2. Give yourself permission to forgive by making a claim that it is okay for you to forgive those on your list.
  3. Forgive your self by literally looking in the mirror, at you, and saying, “I forgive you for…”
  4. Contact each person on your list and genuinely forgive them by saying to them, “I forgive you for…” (be specific).
  5. Now, when you forgive those on your list, you must accept their response, no matter what it may be. They may not accept your forgiveness. If they do not accept, you must still accept that and let it go. You can’t force them to accept your forgiveness. Remember you are doing this for you, not for them.

This process of forgiving may not always be easy, but it is definitely worth it. You may find that you forgivenesswill be spiritually fed if you allow yourself to experience the above or some other process of self-forgiving. Forgiving allows you to become better at the art of letting go of stuff, which then allows you to move forward in your life. So pay yourself first and forgive the one who matters the most – YOU.

Until next time..

NOW WHAT?

Letting Go Cafe - Now What

  • Are you a home based business owner who – just happened to sign up with a network marketing company to sell their products online?
  • Are you stuck in a rut trying to figure out how to generate leads online?
  • Do you sit at your computer, late at night (or whenever) and ask the screen, “NOW WHAT?”

I understand and have done all three. Its frustrating, isn’t it?

To close the gap between where you are now and where you want to be with your business requires focus, on self development that you might not have had in the past. Understanding your strengths and challenges, and recognizing how to have balance between the two is a developed skill that comes with time, focus, being honest with yourself, and more. For those who figure this out – awesome! But for those who don’t, well, let’s just say that it takes a bit more time to get where/what you want.

For home based business owners in the network marketing and direct sales industry, the question – NOW WHAT? – is a common one. But is the answer common? The product and/or service being offered is great. The compensation plan is set and incredible. The company has a steady track record. The process for finding and following up with leads is in place. The marketing tools are already designed and provided. So what is left? Two words – personal development.

The internal dialog of the home based business owner can make or break their success. What you say to yourself – about you – becomes paramount. The level of confidence, being self-empowered, understanding internal strengths and weaknesses, and being laser focused on a goal or dream – are often part of the missing links in growing any business. 90% of the challenges for home based business owners are in the lack of personal development. What creates this lack or the need to ask, NOW WHAT? It is one thing – STUFF.

Have an AWESOME day!!!

Until the next post… take care.

Darren

Cokoa’s Journey – A Parable For Leaders About How To Let Go

Cokoa's Journey - Book For LeadersCokoa’s Journey is an e-book for leaders. The story is about how well Cokoa learns to let go and move beyond the internal barriers that interfere with accomplishing his goals. In this parable, Cokoa learns the seven steps for effectively letting go. He spends eight days working with Pepe, a wise sage. Pepe takes Cokoa on a great journey in which he discovers these seven steps, referred to in the book as secrets. It is a delightful and intriguing story written as a parable.

The author, Darren L Johnson, has been teaching, researching, and writing about how to effectively let go since 1994.

The e-book is available on Amazon.
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