By ELisha Vee
Every now and then I hear an inner voice yelling for me to post something online. “Share an experience,” the voice yells. When that happens, I get excited and start thinking about what to write and how to convey my thoughts.
Then moments later that inner voice quietly says, “Don’t post that. It does not feel comfortable. It is not safe to feel uncomfortable.”
What ensues is a feeling of anxiety over possible rejection or ridicule (due to past experiences) overwhelms me. This leads to the inevitable “deletion” of the post.
Why does the second voice seem to “win out” most of the time? Shouldn’t the initial voice be the bigger voice with more confidence, relevance, and authenticity?
It is my understanding that the answer lies within the subconscious. I believe the subconscious is a powerful protector that helps us to avoid threats – real or perceived – at all costs. When I feel anxious inside, my subconscious springs into its reactive, protective mode.
“Thank you, Subconscious. I feel safe now?”
Constantly reliving past experiences can greatly inhibit our creative expression. We have to learn to let go. Being unable to let go prevents us from being fully present in the moment, thereby reducing our overall quality of life. Oftentimes we are not aware that we are living in the past and that our present actions are mostly reactions triggered by past experiences.
We have to learn how to let go in order to access and process these emotions from the past. As the saying goes: “Problems cannot be solved with the same mindset that created them.” Practicing the skill of letting go can free us of emotional triggers and allow us to move towards the next greatest version of ourselves.
Imagine how much more productive, fulfilled, and happy life could be if we learn how to tap into our subconscious. Once we identify the voice that is telling us “no,” we can consciously choose to shift that to a resounding ‘yes.”. The more practice we get with making conscious choices about our internal conversation, the better we get at acting according the positive portions of our internal dialog.
Which do you listen to most often, the YES or the NO voice?